http://www.here2maternity.co.uk/2009/08/generations-of-expectation-the-tale-of-falling-in-love-at-birth-or-not/ To Maternity and Beyond... Tue, 22 Mar 2011 08:27:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 http://www.here2maternity.co.uk/2009/08/generations-of-expectation-the-tale-of-falling-in-love-at-birth-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-14 kb Sat, 15 Aug 2009 08:35:13 +0000 http://www.lifelovelust.co.uk/?p=69#comment-14 My partner also changed first nappies, I could hardly move after my c-section. He got first bath as well. I was an anxious mess for the next 4 years, after that I actually started to feel I could enjoy my son they way I always wanted too. The first things we should be told as new mum's 1. Look after yourself first, and everything will extend outwardly from there. 2. No, it doesn't come naturally, but you will get used to it, (can't say when though). I am only learning now at 7 and 3/4's years of age to no longer feel guilty about my choices as a mum. We are born to do our best for our children and that definately comes naturally, we have to allow ourselves to be human and know we made the best choice at the time. My partner also changed first nappies, I could hardly move after my c-section. He got first bath as well.
I was an anxious mess for the next 4 years, after that I actually started to feel I could enjoy my son they way I always wanted too.
The first things we should be told as new mum’s
1. Look after yourself first, and everything will extend outwardly from there.
2. No, it doesn’t come naturally, but you will get used to it, (can’t say when though).
I am only learning now at 7 and 3/4′s years of age to no longer feel guilty about my choices as a mum. We are born to do our best for our children and that definately comes naturally, we have to allow ourselves to be human and know we made the best choice at the time.

]]> http://www.here2maternity.co.uk/2009/08/generations-of-expectation-the-tale-of-falling-in-love-at-birth-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-10 admin Fri, 07 Aug 2009 13:07:22 +0000 http://www.lifelovelust.co.uk/?p=69#comment-10 Hey Kestrel, Thanks so much for your support and your comments. It's great to have outside opinion. I love the feather thing, I wasn't clever enough to do that but I did stand for minutes just watching for the breathing. It's just so incredible how time and just a little experience changes your confidence. Do come back again. Jay-marie Hey Kestrel,
Thanks so much for your support and your comments. It’s great to have outside opinion. I love the feather thing, I wasn’t clever enough to do that but I did stand for minutes just watching for the breathing. It’s just so incredible how time and just a little experience changes your confidence.
Do come back again.
Jay-marie

]]> http://www.here2maternity.co.uk/2009/08/generations-of-expectation-the-tale-of-falling-in-love-at-birth-or-not/comment-page-1/#comment-8 kestrel Fri, 07 Aug 2009 02:16:27 +0000 http://www.lifelovelust.co.uk/?p=69#comment-8 YOU WILL make a GREAT MUM. With first born, i think I was anxious ALL the time as i had no experience just like you. I had a feather next to her cot and would hold it to her nose when she was sleeping to check if she was breathing - I was that inexperienced. You are so right - bonds are made and they do not magically appear at birth. Have fun with Pickles and Keep Bondin' YOU WILL make a GREAT MUM. With first born, i think I was anxious ALL the time as i had no experience just like you. I had a feather next to her cot and would hold it to her nose when she was sleeping to check if she was breathing – I was that inexperienced. You are so right – bonds are made and they do not magically appear at birth. Have fun with Pickles and Keep Bondin’

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